I love my squishy, happy, safe, and secure, comfort bubble. Nothing can get to me in there! Goodbye reality! Sadly, comfort zones don’t allow you to grow as a person… which is something I’m very passionate about. Over the past few weeks, I have been adjusting to a new job, new coworkers, new town, and new routines. I’m far away from home, I have no idea what tomorrow will bring, I’m sharing a hotel room with acquaintances, and I’ve started a job that I'm learning from the ground up. Bonus! I have no clue when I will be home again.
You could say, I’ve been pushing at that comfort zone lately.
Driving to work on that first day had me feeling SICK. I wanted to back out, go home, hug my mom, and cry. This isn’t me… at least, this wasn’t me. A few years ago I simply didn’t do things like this. Used to be that you couldn’t catch me dead outside of my comfort bubble. But nowadays I can’t remember where I last left it.... I think it's collecting dust under my couch, along with my dutch brothers stamp card and dozens of broken hair ties. I’ve grown, changed, and challenged myself to grow.
Whenever I get nervous about a new situation I say to myself “You are 20 years old, if you cannot walk through those doors, meet new people, and embrace this learning experience, then you wont be able to grow as a person.” That may seem rather harsh, but it scares me into submission! I don’t want to be a terrified lump who never leaves the house because change makes my insides dissolve.
SO! Here’s a few tips I’ve learned on how to calm and collect yourself when you are entering an unknown and uncomfortable place.
1. Maintain routine
If you normally wake up and drink a cup of coffee, always shower before bed, or have daily quiet time after lunch… try your best to maintain that in your new circumstance. Your mind is whirring and you are uncomfortable, the best thing you can do is try to add some normalcy and familiarity to your day, no matter where you may be.
2. Embrace oddities
Each new place is going to have it’s quirks, it’s best if you learn to embrace them! Try your best to go with the flow and give dozens of second chances. So, that coffee place was horrible for the third day in a row… keep trying, you’ll find your perfect blend soon enough.
3. Give yourself grace
You wont adjust overnight. It’s going to take time, it will be hard, and you may want to cry… but you will get there. Normalcy is something you have to consciously work for. Wake up each morning giving ALL of your effort to create an environment you can thrive in.. no matter where you are.
4. Be transparent
Just as you are trying to figure out your new surroundings, your surroundings are trying to figure out YOU. Your new coworkers, new coffee shop, new town, or new college, are also figuring you out! Be the best version of yourself that you can be, believe in yourself and let that confidence shine through. You’ve got this. It’s scary as hell, but you can do this. I believe in you.